Last week I told you about my encounter with Fred (not his real name) when I visited First Baptist Church of Glenarden on the Kettering. It was heart breaking to listen to him and to watch the men strutting around in their suits, looking religious.
This past Thursday, while taking the metro in to work, I met another of my former associates from FBCGotK. This meeting was even more depressing.
I’ll call this bloke Rufus.
I saw Rufus a couple of feet from me as we traveled to L’Enfant Plaza to change trains. As I positioned myself to get off the train, I called his name (I was actually behind him as we exited) and said hello.
He responded, somewhat politely. I asked if he still worked at the Pentagon and he replied “yes.” He then asked me if I still ran this site and I responded “yes.” Then I mentioned that I assume he hasn’t seen any of the recent stuff since he asked about it.
Here’s where it gets interesting. He told me that he has read it (a curious thing to say since he just asked me if I still maintain it). And he followed that statement with “It’s all just a bunch of bickering!”
Being a fellow who likes to understand the terms being thrown around, I asked him what he meant by “bickering.”
At that point he became very defensive and said “You know what I mean. It’s bickering.” Efforts to clarify or give specifics to the accusation seemed to upset him more than anything else. I pointed out that he had brought up the site, not me. And if he didn’t want to talk about it I was fine with that.
He then asked me where I worship now and I told him the name of the place is Reformation Alive Baptist Church in Temple Hills. Interestingly, his response to that was “What does that part about Reformation mean?”
Being the gracious fellow I am, I proceeded to explain our adherence to the doctrines of grace.
To my amazement, as the train was approaching, he quite suddenly blurted “That site doesn’t read that way. It’s just a bunch of bickering!” At that point, I again explained to him that he brought up the site yet he didn’t seem to want to address specific issues. Like many of the readers who object to what I do here, he simply repeated himself. I didn’t bother to follow him as he entered the rail car. I got on the next one.
Rufus is one of the two types of men who attend FBCGotK. There are the folks like Fred, thoughtless enough to be able to stay in a place that completely disregards the truths of the Bible, having not a clue about doctrine, but friendly, wanting to be your friend.
Then there are the mindless dolts like Rufus who haven’t a clue about true Christianity and get insanely agitated when you actually call the church, and its pastor, to task for wandering from the truth of the Gospel. All they are able to do is make the same inane accusation over and over again, getting more upset when you ask for details.
On the other hand, I can at least respect Rufus. He was upset with me and he let me know he was upset with me. Deacon Featherstone, one of the the less than worthless deacons who allow John K. Jenkins to run amok (second set of definitions), smiled in my face and hugged me the last time I saw him. I was almost tempted to see if he had had his…um…package removed since he didn’t even have the ‘nads to tell me what he thinks.
Hey there Melvin and PP Community:
After reading this posting, I thought I should write and tell you that I have actually met John Jenkins in Las Vegas with a mutual friend. Actually, it was Jenkins, his wife, my friend and his wife, and my wife was with me.
Interestingly, Jenkins is a little guy with no real personality. I can understand his arrogance and insecurity a little more after talking with him. Unfortunately, it is because the Black church is largely Biblically illiterate, that we will allow men such as Jenkins to run amok in the church.
Unless God raise up some strong men who know their Bible, men like Jenkins will continue to keep the people in the dark. Thanks for sharing your experiences. I’ve had a few encounters and conversations with people like the men you have described in this last posting.
Blessings to All!
BT
(MN:Hey BT, good to hear from you again. Thanks for the observation. It’s interesting how people who actually talk to him (man to man not some anointed so and so) tend not to be particularly taken with him? )
Mel,
that drives me nuts…someone will throw out an accusation, and then when you try and get them to be specific about why they believe it, they fade away..
Everyone loves to have their opinion considered as longs as you don’t actually try and understand it.
It’s refreshing to hear you call it like you see it. Until people realize there’s a problem with what these preachers are not preaching. You’ll have folks like these that are happy with the status quo. I want my preacher to be truthful with me, just like my doctor that knows I have termial cancer and I’m going to die. My Pastor knows that my sins will take me to hell, I expect to hear that from the pulpit. If not, I’ll be looking for one that will. God Bless
I received an emailed flyer from Dr. Juanita Bynum II (why “II”?) for a two day life coaching session. It’s only $1000. The words “Rev”, “ministry”, or “Christ” were completely absent.
(MN: And that’s okay since the character of Christ appears to be completely absent in her life as well. )
God forbid that there may be two of them….
hey melvin. I appreciate and regularly read your site. I live up here in the midwest and would like to hear more from you about what we are to do with the “pulpit pimps” who continue to delude the flock. Storefront worldwide ministries and all sorts of of minitstries continue to proliferate and influence people with false doctrine, church entertainment and what have you.
Pastor said yesterday, in word of caution, “never underestimate our ability to self justify and self decieve”.
He was specifically referring to being cautious in our biblical exigesis, but it applies perfectly to Fred and Rufus.
I was for years involved with a church startup that became increasingly enamored with the newest wranglings of the church growth movenent. spent nearly a year on the elder board attempting to turn the ship, and was ultimately moved (by man and God) to leave. i would place 85% of the people who i have met that still attend there, in one of those 2 categories.
It is sad and at times confusing.
Melvin,
Thanks for taking a stand. I am the pastor of a small church in Georgia. It amazes me how people who are unhappy with a ministry will remain and even defend the status quo. It is time to try to turn the ship around and get the emphasis back on Jesus and the Gospel of Jesus Christ, not riches.
(MN: My pleasure. I’m from Atlanta. Where are you in Georgia?
By the way folks, as people write in [like this fellow], you might want to consider working up a prayer list to include them. Being a small church and resisting the frustration to throw in the towel for a nice suit can be almost overwhelming at times. )
I have a church in Lovejoy. About 24 miles South of Atlanta.
(MN: I Like your smile Pastor! )
Hello, Melvin:
Our minister’s church is in Lovejoy.
Peter.
Unfortunately, there are alot of people like Rufus. I am now pretty convinced that unless the Lord touches their conscience with His Word, then it’s not much we can say or do. I have tried to talk to folks, reason with them from the Word, and they get angry. Can you imagine a Christian getting angry over discussing the bible?? To me it is very scary that a believer could spew out venom while discussing the truth of God’s Word. The brainwashing is deep and emotions rule with these folks.
(MN: I’ve seen people almost explode in anger - no matter how gently you attempt to use the Word. But sometimes it’s good when they respond this way. When I was meeting with John K. Jenkins and my pastor at the time, to ask him to counsel my wife to leave FBCGotK, and we tried to approach him with scripture, John made it very clear that if we insisted on using the Bible, he would end the discussion. I saw the poor man for exactly who he was at that point.
You have to wonder what guys like John K. Jenkins are going to face when they meet Jesus Christ. Think of all the lives they have ruined, even shattered. )
“church people” people will even blaspheme when confronted with the truth. As you’ve stated, the brainwashing and indoctrination of lies surely run deep. It can definitely get disheartening after a while.
(MN: After a while I can see there is no need to continue working with a particular person. But half the fun is warning people away from the pimp pits. )
Steve and Mel Man,
it goes without saying that you will continue to speak on this. By all means do. Give the people you have talked to time. You have given them a lot to think about. It can certainly be frustrating when people don’t respond at that moment of truth. But I believe that in due time what you have said will make more sense to them and they will respond in the affirmative to the Truth (whether you witness it or not).
Peace and blessings
But I would rather every one I talk to get that epiphanical (is that a real word?) look on their face, shout “Aha!” and shake my hand for so brilliantly guiding them into the understanding and acceptance of the doctrines of grace. But for now, I guess I’ll do with “Why are you following after a man?”
package? nads? I don’t care to listen to believers that talk in that manner, that’s coarse and foul - hardly Godly discourse…
(MN: Then don’t. )
(MN: I accidentally deleted this one and had to type it in again. )
BTW Mel….how is GaryV. I haven’t seen him in a while. I hope he’s ok.
(MN: He’s good. Between a flaky computer and a restriction on internet access, he has to hustle to get in. )
I’m getting off the subject. Are all AME, CME and AMEZ wrong for allowing Women to Pastor?
(MN: Only the ones that allow women to pastor. )
I understand that the purpose of a blog is to share your opinions. And, of course, if I don’t like it, I don’t have to read it.
I don’t disagree with the subject. I don’t disagree with the content. I don’t even disagree with your feelings toward these men. What I personally don’t like is the tone. It sounds hurt. It sounds bitter. I’ve been there. I understand.
(MN: Apparently you don’t understand. I don’t present opinion. The men and women discussed here say the things I show them to say. It’s not my opinion. The Bible says what it says. It’s not my opinion. The men and women preach heresies. It’s not my opinion. The pimps and pimpettes take advantage of the unsaved and untaught. That’s not my opinion.
On the other hand, you think my tone sounds hurt. That is an opinion. I sound bitter. That is an opinion. Again, apparently you don’t understand. )
While no one can draw a man to repentance but GOD, I still think that it is wise and responsible to deal with followers of false teachers in love and in patience. Some of the ways you deliver your views are harsh. And name calling is also immature in my opinion (and in many people’s opinion.)
(MN: I’m not trying to draw these men and women to God. I am warning men and women away from them. And apparently that effort has been somewhat successful. )
For many people, such as myself, pentecostal, “faith”, WOF (ETC) teachings were a part of my life. They were part of ME. It was a cancer. Now if I go to a surgeon to have a tumor removed, it would be irresponsible to cut me open, reach in, and yank that tumor out. It would cause unnecessary pain and potentially fatal damage.
If the surgeon truly cared about my well being, he would carefully cut the tumor away before he removed it. Sure, the surgeon clearly sees the tumor. It’s in plain view. It’s obvious. How could he NOT see it? But even though he sees it, it’s not a simple wham bam procedure.
Likewise, when trying to teach a person out of WOF, it would be responsible to do so in love. Honestly, it’s because of that approach that a brother was able to get past my immediate defense of “calvinists are just arrogant, argumentative, combative, pharisees!” Once I got past that and we examined scripture together, it left me with little choice but to accept the TRUTH! Praise GOD for His grace!
(MN: Sorry, but there are literally millions of Synergistic Christians who have been approached in what you are defining as love. And they still think Calvinists are Satan’s tool. While I would never go out of my way to be unpleasant to some one I am speaking to about Monergism (read the posts), it is, as you said earlier, God who removes the scales from the Arminian’s eyes. It’s not the loving presentation or the flawless logic that does it. Though certainly I should be loving [as the circumstance determines the love] and should always be logical - yet not discount the feelings of the person I am talking to. )
I think the reason the man said that it sounds like a bunch of bickering is because it does. To them (and honestly, to me) it sounds like clanging symbol stuff. I don’t see a love for the decieved. I feel scorn. I feel an “I’m right, you’re wrong” tone. Just because the man wasn’t able to articulate his feeling doesn’t mean that you should automatically disregard it. I would hope that if he were able to articulate his feelings on the matter, you’d be receptive rather than dismissive based on the assumption that “he’s just defending his idol.” If your true desire is to draw people away from their idols, in my opinion (and experience drawing others away from false teachers), the best approach is love and patience. Carefully cut the tumor away. But of course, as the word says, (paraphrased) warn them once, warn them twice, and then leave them to GOD. Don’t push the matter. But don’t hold a grudge either.
(MN: Actually, he said it sounds like a bunch of bickering because none of the stuff I write about is of any particular importance to him. Trinity vs Oneness? That ain’t important! We should just love each other. Sins paid on the cross vs sins paid for in hell? Not that important! We should just love one another. We can’t judge each other! Everybody has their own beliefs! But we have to get past those differences and love each other.
What you might want to do is read the posting through what I will call “doctrinal eyes” and not simply emotional eyes. You will then see that feelings have very little to do with it. Patient? I am patient. I have been doing this for five years [I start year six in a couple of days]. I don’t chase after people [I can't]. This is a web site and I don’t send out e-mail. People come to me. And if God chooses to use this site for the people He is drawing, that works too. )
Of course this is just my personal opinion and insight. (MN: This entire comment has been your personal opinion and, I must say, not much insight. ) Of course you have the full right to express yourself as you will. This is a blog after all. A place where you don’t have to be tactful. You can just blurt out all the frustration that you feel.
Ultimately, that’s what I assume you do on here. I could be wrong. But it seems that way. You have a lot on your chest and you just blurt it out no matter how insulting or alienating. Then again, I’m sure you can say worse and you do show some restraint (”less than worthless” is quite different from “brood of vipers” by the way…think it through).
(MN: Yes, less than worthless isn’t at all harmful if you don’t follow them. A brood of vipers can kill you. I was actually being nice to the less than worthless deacons. Although I must say their inaction is paving the way for the eternal death of thousands. )
I would just suggest you exercise a little more restraint. Let the Word and the facts speak for themselves. Your argument has no power to convince or save. These are my suggestions based on my feelings and opinions and experiences. But again, this is YOUR blog and your opinion. Do as you will. I pray that this challenges you, though.
(MN: After reading your supposedly restrained comment, I must say I am somewhat puzzled. How do you come to the conclusion that my arguments have the power to save? Although, perhaps I can understand that you would come to these conclusions since by your own words you are only working with your feelings, your opinions, and your experience.
I pray that you would look at the Scriptures, compare them to what I am doing, and tell me where I am being contrary to those Scriptures. Please don’t expect me to respons much to what you feel, your opinions, or you experience.
Oh, and just to make sure I cover it, what opinions have I expressed? While I certainly make judgments, few if any of them are based on my opinion. The deacons (elders) at First Baptist Church of Glenarden on the Kettering are less than worthless because they do not shepherd the sheep. They simply stand there while the wolves devour the sheep.
And no, it didn’t challenge me. I heard the same words from different commentors over and over again. And like the rest, you present nothing but your feelings. Try Scripture next time. )
Grace and Peace.
And by the way, you’re not a dead man walking any more. If you have been born again, you have been raised with Christ. You who were dead in your sins are now alive in Christ Jesus.
If you are going to say you are Reformed, at least be more accurate with your tag. (I saw in your comment framework that you use the moniker Dead Man Walking.)